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Upbringing and life experience, your dad and his brother poles apart Debbie. The longer I live the more I know (rather than sense) that trauma runs through us all. Cutting across that are the expectations of what we do with it; hide or reveal. The pity is how long it takes someone to understand it, find a way to love themselves and those around them. It's a life's work.

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Oh, the inner life of analysing expectations and reading the (perhaps) unspoken thoughts of being 'other' Debbie; I hear and acknowledge your reading of him, and it's affect on you. Profound and long lasting.

I perceive it was like that with my mother. I didn't fit into her narrative. I turned that round by choosing to understand her in the context of her own upbringing. She died in 2020. Was I a disappointment to her, that I did not fit the mould of my brother and sister. Perhaps, but I have ripped up that script.

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